Swinger Couple Claiming Sleeping With Other People Saved Their Relationship

Lauren Freeman

Journalist

"Sleeping with other people" is usually the point where a relationship breaks down and the court has to decide who owns the cat now. However, for Terri Ellwood, 26, and Lee Blackley, 30, it's the thing that helped keep them together. For Lee admitted to Terri that he cheated on his ex-wife - but he would remain faithful to Terry if she allowed him to sleep with other women. Terri agreed - as long as she was there while he did it.

“I love it now but at first I wasn’t so sure," Terri told the press. “I really liked Lee and was devastated when I found out he’d cheated on every past partner. I didn’t want to end things and I knew he liked me too. He asked if I could come round to the idea of swinging. I thought it was just for weird older couples but when he showed me all the attractive young couples on swinging websites, I thought I should give it a go. Now I’m happily a swinger with Lee, and I’m safe in the knowledge he’ll never cheat — unless I’m in the room.”

source

Terri met Lee in February 2015 on the dating site Plenty of Fish. They had their first date four weeks later. It was all going great before Lee made his confession. “We had been talking until the early hours and getting on so well, then Lee just blurted it out," she said.

source

"He told me he had never been able to be faithful to any girlfriends, and even admitted having a secret ‘cheating’ phone to organise his late-night hook-ups. I was gobsmacked. Lee was adamant he wanted to stay with me but admitted he struggled to remain faithful, sexually, due to such a strong desire to sleep with other women. I doubted how we could ever make this work.”

source

Terri still gave him a chance, making their relationship official in April 2015. It only took Lee six month to come up with a very surprising offer for Terri. “Lee said he wanted to be with me but asked if we could bring someone else into the bedroom for a threesome. It was totally out of the blue," she said. "I wanted Lee to be happy and I’d always been open-minded but the idea of being with someone else made me nervous. Lee was really patient and understanding. We discussed it for hours, how it would work, who it would be with. I ended up being intrigued by the idea.”

source

They got onto a swinger website to look for a suitable person. “I really enjoyed looking at the different women with Lee and when we both found one of them attractive, I was actually excited to message her," said Terri. “She wrote back saying she was interested and I knew I wanted to try it." At first, Terri was terrified that Lee would like the new woman more than her. However, she relaxed once they actually met, and chatting and flirting quickly turned to intimacy.

source

“It was such a thrill when Lee watched me with her, and I really enjoyed watching Lee too," says Terri. “When we went home Lee and I sat up for hours talking about it — what we liked and what we didn’t.” Lee was already keen to meet even more people. They signed to more websites had their first foursome in a few months – Terri said "it was just as thrilling as the first time." They now attend swinger parties every six weeks - and they always use protection.

source

The couple does have rules set out. They must do everything together, from messaging to meeting up. “It’s important that he respects me," said Terri. “I never thought I’d be OK with seeing my boyfriend have sex with another woman, let alone be comfortable with him seeing me sleep with another man. It’s centered around trust. I would not be OK with Lee meeting someone on his own. I would consider that cheating.” Other rules are no kissing and swinging is to be done away from home.

Discussion

25 Hilarious Sibling Photo Recreations Will Crack You Up Stories

Some people have wonderful relationships with their siblings and they go on to do amazing things together. One of those projects could be recreating their childhood photographs!

Jayson Beck

20 Struggles That Only Moms Will Understand Stories

20 things that only moms like you will understand – since you lived through them, you're probably living through them right now and there's a chance of you living through more of them..

Lauren Freeman

This Guy Photographs The Jets Of The Super Rich Stories

"An executive airplane can have virtually anything on it — anything a fancy house, apartment, or castle has in it." - the photographer Nick Gleis says.

Hilary Gowan

Kitchen Fails: Expectations vs. Reality Stories

Luckily for us, these people often feel brave enough to post their kitchen fails on the internet for our amusement. Here are some of the funniest ones!

Jayson Beck

This Is Why Raccoons Are The Most Amazing Animals In The World Stories

Raccoons are also super cute! Everyone loves a raccoon, even if they're just an old prospector who wants a cool hat. In celebration of all things coon, here's an article about our fuzzy pals!

Jayson Beck

9 Things You Should Know To Survive A Nuclear Attack Stories

For most of the Cold War, people lived under the permanent shadow of instant nuclear annihilation. Glad we survived that and no nukes had been unleashed in anger since the World War II

Jayson Beck

10+ Grandparents Who Are Cooler Than You'll Ever Be Stories

Some grandparents are unwilling to let old age dictate what they can and can't do.

Jayson Beck

How to Get Married Stories

However, marriage can be a complicated affair, especially if you dream big. You always hope that this is something that you will only have to do once, so you want to make it count.

Josephine Thompson

This Is Why Jamie Oliver Wants To Ban Energy Drinks Stories

Jamie has already had a successful campaign for healthier school food as well as a sugar tax.

Josephine Thompson

Have A Cat? Here Are 10 Scientific Reasons Why It's Good For You Stories

Yes, here we have 10 reasons why having a cat is actually good for you – all verified by science. So read on and submit to your feline overlords.

Jayson Beck

Moms: The Amazing 7 Tips You Need To Know How To Survive Summer Pregnancy Stories

So chances are that a part of your pregnancy will take part during the summer period of your part of the globe. And the summer is liable to put even more stress on your already overburdened..

Josephine Thompson

Heartmelting Story Of Puppy Returned After Simon Cowell Offered $14K Reward Stories

Letter to a Santa Claus becomes a miracle for a one small boy!

Hilary Gowan

Terminally Ill Teen Mom Gives Birth And You Won't Stop Crying Stories

Heartbreaking story showing the power of mother's true love

Josephine Thompson

Photo Of Terminally Ill Grandpa Next To His Cancer-Stricken 5yo Granddaughter Will Break Your Heart Stories

Sean Peterson is terminally ill with motor neurone disease. He can't speak anymore - but he can still cry by the bedside of his five-year-old granddaughter.

Josephine Thompson

15+ Photos Of Couples Who Have Funnier Relationships Than Yours Stories

They bring joy and fun to their lives, and the fact that they're in a relationship just gives them new ways to be funny. Try and keep up with these 20 couples!

Jayson Beck

Shocking "Human Cat" Pictures Make Police Deny It Exists Stories

People posted images on the internet that look like some tiny cat-person baby.

Hilary Gowan

The Reason This Boy Came To School With Completely Frozen Hair Will Leave You Heartbroken Stories

A kid from rural China is becoming an internet sensation after the pictures of his frozen hair started circulating social media.

Jayson Beck

Saudi Nurses Who Did A Shocking Thing To A Baby Fired Stories

It's hard enough trying to keep a baby alive by yourself. It's even harder when you see a bunch of healthcare professionals mishandling one.

Josephine Thompson

Shocking Racist Add Has Critics Calling For Major Clothing Brand Boycott Stories

Advertising can be a hit or miss thing - even when you're not being called racist! H&M is now coming under fire for a new clothing add that people are labelling just that.

Lauren Freeman

The Reason Why Indonesian Tribe Digs Up Corpses EVERY YEAR Will Shock You Stories

You might say "till death do us part," but the Toraja people on the Indonesian island of Sulawesi think that it's nonsense.

Lauren Freeman

Spoiled Daughter Of Two Gay Dads: Million Dollar Wardrobe, Thousands Of Dollars In Allowance Stories

Saffron Drewitt-Barlow is living the dream harder than you imagined. She is also close to being the most spoiled child in the kingdom, too.

Josephine Thompson